Sikhism·Raag Aasaa·Shabad 4
Verse 3 of 5

Living for Compliments Is Building on Sand

ਘੂੰਘਟ ਕਾਢੇ ਕੀ ਇਹੈ ਬਡਾਈ ॥
ghoonghat kaadhay kee ihai badaa-ee.
The only merit in veiling your face is
ਦਿਨ ਦਸ ਪਾਂਚ ਬਹੂ ਭਲੇ ਆਈ ॥੨॥
din das paaNch bahoo bhalay aa-ee. ||2||
that for a few days, people will say, "What a noble bride has come". ||2||

Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa

In plain words

The only thing an outer show gets you is a few days of people saying, 'How proper and nice.'

And then it's forgotten.

Living for other people's compliments buys only a few days of praise, then fades — it's building on sand.
The deeper layer

Kabir names exactly what the outer show does buy — and how little it's worth: for a few days, people will say, 'what a noble bride has come.' That's it. A brief flutter of other people's approval, a few days of compliments — and then it fades and is forgotten. Kabir is putting his finger on something a child needs to understand early: so much of what we do for appearance is really just fishing for other people's praise, which is fleeting and shallow. It feels nice for a moment and then it's gone, leaving nothing behind. Living for compliments is like building on sand. There has to be something more lasting to build a life on — and Kabir names it next.

A Question to Sit With

How long does the good feeling of a compliment last? What lasts longer than that?

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