Sikhism·Raag Gauree·Shabad 295
Verse 58 of 136

You Don't Have to Win the Argument

ਮਃ ੪ ॥
mehlaa 4.
Fourth Mehl:
ਪੂਰੇ ਗੁਰ ਕਾ ਹੁਕਮੁ ਨ ਮੰਨੈ ਓਹੁ ਮਨਮੁਖੁ ਅਗਿਆਨੁ ਮੁਠਾ ਬਿਖੁ ਮਾਇਆ ॥
pooray gur kaa hukam na mannai oh manmukh agi-aan muthaa bikh maa-i-aa.
One who does not obey the Hukam, the Command of the Perfect Guru - that self-willed manmukh is plundered by his ignorance and poisoned by Maya.
ਓਸੁ ਅੰਦਰਿ ਕੂੜੁ ਕੂੜੋ ਕਰਿ ਬੁਝੈ ਅਣਹੋਦੇ ਝਗੜੇ ਦਯਿ ਓਸ ਦੈ ਗਲਿ ਪਾਇਆ ॥
os andar koorh koorho kar bujhai anhoday jhagrhay da-yi os dai gal paa-i-aa.
Within him is falsehood, and he sees everyone else as false; the Lord has tied these useless conflicts around his neck.
ਓਹੁ ਗਲ ਫਰੋਸੀ ਕਰੇ ਬਹੁਤੇਰੀ ਓਸ ਦਾ ਬੋਲਿਆ ਕਿਸੈ ਨ ਭਾਇਆ ॥
oh gal farosee karay bahutayree os daa boli-aa kisai na bhaa-i-aa.
He babbles on and on, but the words he speaks please no one.
ਓਹੁ ਘਰਿ ਘਰਿ ਹੰਢੈ ਜਿਉ ਰੰਨ ਦੋੁਹਾਗਣਿ ਓਸੁ ਨਾਲਿ ਮੁਹੁ ਜੋੜੇ ਓਸੁ ਭੀ ਲਛਣੁ ਲਾਇਆ ॥
oh ghar ghar handhai ji-o rann dohaagan os naal muhu jorhay os bhee lachhan laa-i-aa.
He wanders from house to house like an abandoned woman; whoever associates with him is stained by the mark of evil as well.
ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਹੋਇ ਸੁ ਅਲਿਪਤੋ ਵਰਤੈ ਓਸ ਦਾ ਪਾਸੁ ਛਡਿ ਗੁਰ ਪਾਸਿ ਬਹਿ ਜਾਇਆ ॥
gurmukh ho-ay so alipato vartai os daa paas chhad gur paas bahi jaa-i-aa.
Those who become Gurmukh avoid him; they forsake his company and sit hear the Guru.
ਜੋ ਗੁਰੁ ਗੋਪੇ ਆਪਣਾ ਸੁ ਭਲਾ ਨਾਹੀ ਪੰਚਹੁ ਓਨਿ ਲਾਹਾ ਮੂਲੁ ਸਭੁ ਗਵਾਇਆ ॥
jo gur gopay aapnaa so bhalaa naahee panchahu on laahaa mool sabh gavaa-i-aa.
O chosen people, O self-elect, one who does not publicly affirm his Guru is not a good person; he loses all his profits and capital.
ਪਹਿਲਾ ਆਗਮੁ ਨਿਗਮੁ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਆਖਿ ਸੁਣਾਏ ਪੂਰੇ ਗੁਰ ਕਾ ਬਚਨੁ ਉਪਰਿ ਆਇਆ ॥
pahilaa aagam nigam naanak aakh sunaa-ay pooray gur kaa bachan upar aa-i-aa.
People used to chant and recite the Shaastras and the Vedas, O Nanak, but now the Words of the Perfect Guru have come to be the most exalted of all.
ਗੁਰਸਿਖਾ ਵਡਿਆਈ ਭਾਵੈ ਗੁਰ ਪੂਰੇ ਕੀ ਮਨਮੁਖਾ ਓਹ ਵੇਲਾ ਹਥਿ ਨ ਆਇਆ ॥੨॥
gursikhaa vadi-aa-ee bhaavai gur pooray kee manmukhaa oh vaylaa hath na aa-i-aa. ||2||
The glorious greatness of the Perfect Guru is pleasing to the GurSikh; the self-willed manmukhs have lost this opportunity. ||2||

Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa

In plain words

When someone turns only toward themselves and won't follow the perfect Guru's word, they get tangled up — pulled this way and that by the chase after glittering things.

Full of pretense inside, they see everyone else as fake too, and end up snarled in arguments that were never even real.

They talk and talk, trying to sell their words, but somehow nothing they say lands well with anyone.

They wander from house to house, and whoever sticks close to them picks up the same stain.

Those who turn toward the Guru stay unbothered and clear; they simply keep their own peace and sit close to the Guru instead.

Whoever hides their own Guru is not doing well; they lose everything they had gained, even what they started with.

Nanak says: there was a time people recited long scriptures and debated endlessly — but now the plain, living Word of the perfect Guru has risen above all of that. This is what gladdens the heart of the one who follows it. The one turned only toward themselves has let that moment slip away.

You don't have to win the argument — the wise simply stay clear and unbothered, and move closer to what nourishes them.
The deeper layer

When someone turns away from the Guru, they get tangled in arguments; the wise stay calm and sit close to the Guru.

This verse compares two kinds of people through the way they speak. The manmukh faces only themselves. The gurmukh faces the Guru.

The manmukh is shown with real kindness, as someone tangled. They are caught in anhoday jhagrhay, "fights that were never real." A suspicious mind, full of pretending, makes up quarrels out of nothing. Nothing they say lands well, because it comes from being cut off.

What do the wise do? They do not argue back. They stay alipat, calm and untouched, like a lotus leaf that water just rolls off. They move closer to what feeds them, and sit near the Guru.

The line pahilaa aagam nigam makes a big claim. People used to recite the old scriptures and debate them. Now the living Word of the perfect Guru has risen above that. This is not because the scriptures are bad. It is because a plain, living teaching you can actually follow matters more than arguing for its own sake.

A Question to Sit With

When someone is picking a fight that isn't real, is it always worth answering? What else could you do?

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