Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa
The Beloved One is never reached by harming yourself. No outward act done to prove love can bring you closer — love is not something you win by hurting yourself.
This is the pause line, the rahaa-o, the center of the shabad.
It says the Beloved One is never reached by harming yourself. Jalai na paa-ee-ai raam sanayhee: "the Beloved is not found by burning." In Guru Arjan's time there was a cruel custom called satee. A widow was expected to die in her husband's funeral fire, to prove her love. This shabad speaks against it, plainly.
The Guru is taking a cruel custom apart. The One is never reached by self-harm, or by any outward act done to prove love. Love lives inside, in how we turn our hearts. Think of how a parent's love never asks a child to get hurt to prove anything. Union comes through the heart, never through destroying yourself.
Where might someone get the wrong idea that love has to hurt, and what does real love feel like instead?
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