Sikhism·Siree Raag·Shabad 4
Verse 4 of 5

Words That Hurt, Words That Heal

ਜਿਤੁ ਬੋਲਿਐ ਪਤਿ ਪਾਈਐ ਸੋ ਬੋਲਿਆ ਪਰਵਾਣੁ ॥
jit boli-ai pat paa-ee-ai so boli-aa parvaan.
Those words are acceptable, which, when spoken, bring honor.
ਫਿਕਾ ਬੋਲਿ ਵਿਗੁਚਣਾ ਸੁਣਿ ਮੂਰਖ ਮਨ ਅਜਾਣ ॥
fikaa bol viguchnaa sun moorakh man ajaan.
Harsh words bring only grief. Listen, O foolish and ignorant mind!
ਜੋ ਤਿਸੁ ਭਾਵਹਿ ਸੇ ਭਲੇ ਹੋਰਿ ਕਿ ਕਹਣ ਵਖਾਣ ॥੩॥
jo tis bhaaveh say bhalay hor ke kahan vakhaan. ||3||
Those who are pleasing to Him are good. What else is there to be said? ||3||

Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa

In plain words

Some words, when spoken, bring honor — both to you and to the person you're speaking to. Other words land like a wound.

Harsh words bring grief. Not just to the person you say them to — to you too.

Those who are genuinely pleasing to the oneness — they are good. Everything else is just noise.

Harsh words create grief — not just out there, but inside the speaker. Words have weight in both directions.
The deeper layer

A meditation on the weight of language. In Gurmat, bani (sacred word) is not just poetry — it is vibration, it is living presence. Words carry energy.

The instruction to listen, "O foolish and ignorant mind," is directed inward — Guru Nanak addressing his own wandering, reactive mind, not lecturing others.

The final criterion — "those who are pleasing to Him are good" — cuts through all social judgment. What matters is not whether others approve of your words, but whether they come from truth.

A Question to Sit With

Can you think of a time when you said something harsh and felt bad about it afterward? What made you say it, and what would you say differently now?

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