Loving Only When Pleased Isn't Really Love
Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa
What kind of love only shows up when things are going your way?
A real lover stays devoted through good and bad alike. Someone who only feels loving when they're treated well isn't truly loving — they're just looking out for themselves.
The Second Guru asks a piercing question about the nature of love: what sort of love is this, which clings to duality? — meaning love that flips on and off depending on how you're treated. And he draws the line clearly: one who feels good only when good is done for him, and feels bad when things go badly — do not call him a lover; he trades only for his own account. That's not love; it's a transaction — I'll be nice to you as long as you're nice to me. Real love stays — through the pleasant and the hard, unconditional. For a child this is a deep and grown-up distinction: loving someone only when they please you isn't really loving them; it's loving yourself. True love holds steady on both the good days and the bad.
What's the difference between loving someone and just liking how they make you feel?
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