Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa
Who truly weeps over the pain of the dead?
Those who weep, weep over their own troubles. God knows the condition of all; whatever the Creator does comes to pass.
This one says that much of our sadness when someone dies is about our own loss.
This is said gently. So rovai jis baydan ho-ay — the one who cries is the one who is hurting. When someone we love dies, many of our tears are for our own missing them, and our own fears.
This is not a scolding. Crying for someone you love is natural, and it shows love. The verse simply helps us see clearly. The person who died is with the One. Our tears are often for ourselves, and that is okay.
Think of a best friend moving far away. They are off to a new home. You cry because you will miss them.
Aapay kartaa karay so ho-ay — whatever the Maker does, happens. Shabad 166 teaches the same trust.
When you grieve a loss, how much is for them and how much for yourself?
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