Sikhism·Siree Raag·Shabad 19
Verse 4 of 5

If I Surrender the Body Like a Bride

ਕਾਇਆ ਕਾਮਣਿ ਜੇ ਕਰੀ ਭੋਗੇ ਭੋਗਣਹਾਰੁ ॥
kaa-i-aa kaaman jay karee bhogay bhoganhaar.
If I surrender my body like a bride, the Enjoyer will enjoy me.
ਤਿਸੁ ਸਿਉ ਨੇਹੁ ਨ ਕੀਜਈ ਜੋ ਦੀਸੈ ਚਲਣਹਾਰੁ ॥
tis si-o nayhu na keej-ee jo deesai chalanhaar.
Do not make love with one who is just a passing show.
ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਰਵਹਿ ਸੋਹਾਗਣੀ ਸੋ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਸੇਜ ਭਤਾਰੁ ॥੩॥
gurmukh raveh sohaaganee so parabh sayj bhataar. ||3||
The Gurmukh is ravished like the pure and happy bride on the Bed of God, her Husband. ||3||

Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa

In plain words

If I give my whole self to the Lord like a bride, He, the one who delights, will delight in me.

Do not give your love to what is only a passing show.

The Gurmukh is like the happy bride, close to God, her Husband.

Surrender is not loss — it is the offering that makes the complete meeting possible.
The deeper layer

This line says: give your whole self to God with love, and don't give your heart to things that don't last.

Kaa-i-aa kaaman jay karee: "If I make my body into a kaaman," a bride. In Gurbani, the soul is often a bride and God is the Husband. It is a picture of the closest love there is.

The point is not giving in because you have to. It is giving yourself because you love. That is the difference between a deal and a gift. A deal says, "I give this so I get that." A gift says, "Here I am."

Tis si-o nayhu na keej-ee jo deesai chalanhaar: do not give your love to what you can see is chalanhaar, already leaving. Think of a firework. It is bright and exciting, and then it is gone. A soul that looks for its deepest home in things like that will be let down, however dazzling they look.

Gurmukh raveh sohaaganee: the Gurmukh, the one who follows the Guru, is like the sohaagan, the happy, loved bride. She lives close to God, her Husband, in real togetherness.

A Question to Sit With

Is there a difference between giving something up and offering something? What makes something a sacrifice versus a gift?

Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa·How we use AI

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