Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa
I have grown weary of making friends with other people. All those connections left me when I needed them.
Without the True Teacher, I found no friend at all — no one stayed, no one could.
The Teacher is the friend who is not going anywhere. Everything else was practice for recognizing this.
One of Guru Amar Das's most personal-sounding lines: tham tham mitar kari thakiaa — I grew weary of making friends. The friendships of the world did not hold; the connections did not sustain. This is the human experience of impermanence in relationship.
But the tone is not bitter — it is grateful. The weariness led to the recognition: bin Satgur mitar na paa-i-aa — without the True Guru, no friend was found. The turning is not away from connection but toward the connection that holds.
Have you ever felt let down by a friendship or connection that you thought would be permanent? What did that teach you about what genuine connection actually requires?
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