Sikhism·Raag Soohee·Shabad 126
Verse 28 of 67

First the Heart, Then the Adornment

ਸਲੋਕ ਮਃ ੩ ॥
salok mehlaa 3.
Shalok, Third Mehl:
ਕਾਮਣਿ ਤਉ ਸੀਗਾਰੁ ਕਰਿ ਜਾ ਪਹਿਲਾਂ ਕੰਤੁ ਮਨਾਇ ॥
kaaman ta-o seegaar kar jaa pahilaaN kant manaa-ay.
O bride, decorate yourself, after you surrender and accept your Husband Lord.
ਮਤੁ ਸੇਜੈ ਕੰਤੁ ਨ ਆਵਈ ਏਵੈ ਬਿਰਥਾ ਜਾਇ ॥
mat sayjai kant na aavee ayvai birthaa jaa-ay.
Otherwise, your Husband Lord will not come to your bed, and your ornaments will be useless.
ਕਾਮਣਿ ਪਿਰ ਮਨੁ ਮਾਨਿਆ ਤਉ ਬਣਿਆ ਸੀਗਾਰੁ ॥
kaaman pir man maani-aa ta-o bani-aa seegaar.
O bride, your decorations will adorn you, only when your Husband Lord's Mind is pleased.
ਕੀਆ ਤਉ ਪਰਵਾਣੁ ਹੈ ਜਾ ਸਹੁ ਧਰੇ ਪਿਆਰੁ ॥
kee-aa ta-o parvaan hai jaa saho Dharay pi-aar.
Your ornaments will be acceptable and approved, only when your Husband Lord loves you.
ਭਉ ਸੀਗਾਰੁ ਤਬੋਲ ਰਸੁ ਭੋਜਨੁ ਭਾਉ ਕਰੇਇ ॥
bha-o seegaar tabol ras bhojan bhaa-o karay-i.
So make the Fear of God your ornaments, joy your betel nuts to chew, and love your food.
ਤਨੁ ਮਨੁ ਸਉਪੇ ਕੰਤ ਕਉ ਤਉ ਨਾਨਕ ਭੋਗੁ ਕਰੇਇ ॥੧॥
tan man sa-upay kant ka-o ta-o naanak bhog karay-i. ||1||
Surrender your body and mind to your Husband Lord, and then, O Nanak, He will enjoy you. ||1||

Translation by Dr. Sant Singh Khalsa

In plain words

O soul-bride, dress yourself up only after you have first won your Beloved's heart.

Otherwise your Beloved may not come to you, and all your dressing up goes to waste.

O soul-bride, your jewelry is beautiful only when your Beloved's heart is pleased.

Your dressing up counts only when your Beloved loves you.

So let reverence be your jewelry, joy the sweet you savor, and love your daily food.

Nanak says: give your body and mind to your Beloved, and then the Beloved delights in you.

Win the heart first; then everything else means something.
The deeper layer

pahilaan kant manaa-ay = first win or please the Beloved, then adorn. seegaar = adornment reframed as inner virtue. bhau (reverence) as ornament, bhaa-o (love) as food. tan man sa-upay = offering body and mind, the self-surrender that opens union. The bride is every soul, and the Beloved is the One.

A Question to Sit With

Why does a gift mean more when the friendship behind it is real?

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